Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex: Because Good Guys Make the Best Lovers

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Whether you're about to walk down the aisle, newly married, or you've been married for decades, The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex will lead you on a wonderful journey of discovery toward the amazing sex life God designed you for. I’m on the launch team and have finished the Good Guy’s Guide. I loved it. I’m in the middle of Good Girl’s Guide and I’m loving that too. Relax. Find something that relaxes both partners, perhaps trying massage or baths together. Relaxation fosters confidence and comfort, and can help both erectile and dryness problems. Expanding your definition of sex

DellaCamera, P.A. et al. “Sexual Health, Adherence to Mediterranean Diet, Body Weight, Physical Activity and Mental State: Factors Correlated to Each Other,” Urologia (2017) epub ahead of print. Alix Fox, sex educator and Durex sex and relationship expert. 9. See your partner through other people's eyes Society has made it acceptable for women to put male satisfaction ahead of their own,’ says Alex B Porter, author of The Cunnilinguist: How To Give And Receive Great Oral Sex. Don't be shy. Hold hands and touch your partner often, and encourage them to touch you. Tell your partner what you love about them, and share your ideas about new sexual experiences you might have together.Do you want to try new sexual experiences with your partner, but don’t know how to tell them? Maybe you’re afraid they’ll judge you, or it’s just too awkward. If that’s the case, Persimmon recommends this “ Yes, No, Maybe” list. Body image. As you notice more wrinkles or gray hair, or become aware of love handles or cellulite, you may feel less attractive to your partner. These feelings can make sex less appealing, and can cause you to become less interested in sex. Or it can be a side-effect of some prescription medication. So it’s important to muster the courage to see your GP. As bodies and feelings change as you grow older, it's more important than ever to communicate your thoughts, fears, and desires with your partner. Encourage your partner to communicate fully with you, too. Speaking openly about sex may not come easily to you, but improving your communication will help both of you feel closer, and can make sex more pleasurable.

And I felt that that was such a shallow version of sex. What if we could see the complete picture? I had begun to do some research into what spiritual intimacy really looks like, and I realized that this was an important component missing from our conversations about sex: that it was supposed to be holistic–intimate physically, emotionally, and spiritually. 3. I wanted to help women escape purity culture It’s taboos like this that the new wave of sex educationalists are seeking to bust. And they might just be succeeding. Try to spend at least two days a week enjoying your own body. This will improve your sex life, because your partner is not a mind reader. When you know exactly how you like to be touched, you can better communicate your desires to your partner. 6. Have an Orgasm Before Penetration Talk to your doctor, because menopause treatments – including HRT (hormone replacement therapy) – will help improve dryness. And don’t skimp on foreplay, because sexual arousal is the best way to encourage maximum natural lubrication. When I was researching my book, to find out ways of keeping your sex life exciting after having kids, psychotherapist and sex expert Esther Perel suggested the person who is feeling deprived (in my case, my husband) should create ‘space’ where sex could happen, but doesn’t have to. I’m always worried about not getting enough sleep, so my husband puts the kids to bed earlier, to create space in our day where sex might or might not happen. Feeling free of obligation relaxes me and more often than not, sex happens.”It’s a constant battle for me to be more vulnerable, but I’m definitely doing it more than I used to and I think the easiest way to be more vulnerable is through honest communication,” she says. Great sex is about loving your own body Condoms have improved in recent years, so Susan suggests trying out a few different types. And if you’re worried you may have already caught something, see your GP – or your local sexual health clinic (visit nhs.uk) for free anonymous testing. Problem: It takes longer to climax Someone told me the other day in the Launch Team for the new books that even though what I wrote five years ago wasn’t what I would say now, it was still better than what other people were writing five years ago, and it really helped her. And others said that they had grown with me too. That made me feel a little better, though I do wish I had gotten more of this right from the start. But while you might not have to worry about unwanted pregnancy at this age, it’s vital to protect yourself against sexually transmitted diseases. Look ahead. As you age, try to let go of expectations for your sex life. Do your best to avoid dwelling on how things are different. If you enjoyed an active sex life in your younger years, there's no reason to slow down with age, unless you want to. A positive attitude and open mind can go a long way toward improving your sex life as you age.

A good sex life—at any age—involves a lot more than just sex. It's also about intimacy and touch, things anyone can benefit from. Even if you have health problems or physical disabilities, you can engage in intimate acts and benefit from closeness with another person.

I never originally planned to write a book about sex.

For creatures so famously consumed by thoughts of sex, men remain remarkably confused about what great sex is and how to have it. We’re shadowed by self-doubt, and clouded by myths and misperceptions. It’s not just about our mind-set. We men could also work on our mechanics. Mentally and physically, we’re hampered, hindered. We’re impeded on our path to greater sexual pleasure. The relationship lasted only a few months, says Persimmon, who recently got out of another, longer term relationship. She says the relationships taught her a lot about the importance of vulnerability and communication.